We all experience stress and troubles from time to time in our lives. The question is how fast can we get back on our feet?
Being resilient is viewed today as one of the primary indicators of a successful person.
How resilient are you?
Are you someone who dwells on a problem?
Are you someone who can brush it aside and carry on with what you were doing easily?
Many people will chew over events again and again. This not only adds to the stress of the event but ensures that the negativity around it builds in you with potentially disastrous results.
Have you ever been in a situation where someone has said something hurtful to you and you relive the conversation over and over afterward; thinking of all the things you could have said or wished you had said? You are not alone. Many of us have experienced this. Recognizing this to be unhelpful and potentially harmful to your mental health is the first step to doing something about it.
One of the current buzzwords you will hear a lot today is "Resilience". So what exactly does this mean? Most of us recognise it means something to do with bouncing back after a difficult time or stressful situation. But how many of us really know how to do this?
Counselling is a profession aimed at supporting clients through challenging and stressful times. Though it may surprise you to know that some counsellors are building resistance and not resilience in their clients. Maybe you have experienced this. Certainly, I am not suggesting this is deliberate on the part of the counsellor.
So let's take a look at what Resilience really is and give you some tips on how you can build it for yourself.
What is Resilience?
Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. It means "bouncing back" from difficult experiences.
But resilience is much more than bouncing back:
Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.
E. E. Cummings
This is the key, it can be learned and developed in anyone. So how can this be done? Here are some tips to get you started.
Steps to build resilience:
Step 1: Accept that change is a part of living. Certain goals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) teaches us that all the time we fight what has happened or is happening we create tension in our bodies. This tension can lead to physical issues and potentially severe mental health issues. So the first step to building resilience is to accept that bad stuff can happen and does happen.
Acceptance does not mean agreement. It does not mean to agree with what has happened it simply means to acknowledge that it has happened and there is nothing we can do about that.
This frees us to focus our energy on what we can change; what we can do something about.
Step 2: Take decisive actions. Act on adverse situations as much as you can. Take decisive actions, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away.
Step 3: Look for opportunities for self-discovery. People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect as a result of their struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and hardship have reported better relationships, a greater sense of strength even while feeling vulnerable, an increased sense of self-worth, a more developed spirituality, and a heightened appreciation for life.
Step 4: Take care of yourself. Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. Engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body primed to deal with situations that require resilience.
People who are resilient do two things to reduce their susceptibility to dysfunctional behavior during change:
Carrie Wallis, Author and founder of the "From Strangers 2 Clients to Champions" client attraction system for helping professionals, has been successfully running her own business and finding clients in the online space since 2000. Over the years she has supported countless Life Coaches and Counsellors to build their own practice and find clients and loves nothing more than seeing her clients enjoy the time freedom that comes from having an automated marketing funnel in place. When she is not serving her clients she can be found chilling with her beloved family or out walking in the Australian bush.
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